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What to do when your child doesn't listen to you?

I am a mom of a 4 year old(almost) and he is showing his rebellious side now and then. I can see a disgust and hate all over his facial expression when I try to confront.

It really hurts to see him fall when he can't see the danger at the other side of the tunnel. You want to help him, not like a spoon feed but more like evolve through the situation. It aches to see him do things that isn't accepted by the society on the basis of ethics or norms. You want to guide him and hope he excel but he just doesn't listen.

I was something like this in my teens but he is such a strong character at this tiny age, I can sense it. I pondered on a win win situation for this crises of mine. I want him to listen to my advice and also let him take his own decisions. His own decision, not that he is capable, but more like a practice of self worth.

What generally we parents do is 
Punish them Kids are so common to get grounded or refrained from their favorite activity. They are made to stand …
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Ever lived with a Robot?

How would you imagine your life with a Robot?


The Robot would be helpful... do its duty... do as it is asked to... not complain and not change any of your routine.
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When you want it to understand emotions, you will have to tell it all in words because it couldn't see through your expressions. It couldn't read your eyes and just hug you because you deserved it. But hugged you because you asked for.

It may masturbate for you... it may tell you jokes if you wanted to be entertained... and even accompany you on a stroll when you felt alone. It would not be like owning a pet... like how your dog would come running, liking all over your face even though it was home alone while you were out. It would just make its presence felt by acting to breath a little louder... just incase you wanted to know that its there.

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Strong Mental Health

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One thing that every Gujju Guy should try

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