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7 advises for maintaining relationships

There are times when we face tough times with our spouse. It is the time when its not worth knowing who is at fault. It is the law of nature, simply but natural! No two people can think similar and there is about to be some friction. When all that is expected is let the relationship flourish and last long then here is a list of some advises that we have from our experienced elders:

1. Trust each other
My mom says faith makes the world live ('વિશ્વાસ ઍ વિશ્વ નો સ્વાસ છે'). When trust is broken the relationship will gradually break.

2. Don't play Blame-Game
Everyone has good and bad quality. With time both partners come to know each others well and no one can hide their true self for longer time.
One should avoid blaming the other for situations resulting into bad outcome. In the first place blaming is a bad attitude but we tend to blame loved ones knowing that they need us. This will gradually result into breakups. It is better to accept each other as it is.

3. There is no perfect couple
We all dream of our soul mates but there is no such species in the real world. But yes you can find your best friend. Be a friend first, then a lover.

4. Don't expect change
We tend to hide our drawbacks and expect that our partner will leave his drawbacks. Doesn't that sound like what parents do to children? It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations.

5. Nectar on your tongue
Don't speak of things that can hurt your spouse. Since your spouse trusted you and let you know what he/she would not prefer to tell others it is a big responsibility to keep it safe with you. Frequent harsh remarks will worn the ties between two.

6. Patience
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life. It is not easy to mend broken relationship.

7. Talk it out
I have always experienced this with my partner. Even if i have a small issue, all i need to do is to talk to him. His understanding, mature and loving nature makes me relax. The moment i talk it out... my heart says 'my problem is solved'. It doesn't mean that if your partner is not mature then talking about your issue wont help. It helps always.The extend differs but your spouse knows at least what you are going through!!

My last advise to all you beautiful people in luv and relationship is:
Don't let a beautiful relationship end because of your ego.


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